What is Counselling?
Counselling is a talking therapy that involves a trained therapist listening to you and helping you find ways to deal with emotional issues.
Counselling offers you a time to explore issues that are causing you concern or confusion, in confidence, with someone who will not tell you what to do, judge or reproach you.
A Counsellor is trained to offer therapy by helping you understand yourself and your feelings and emotions, by encouraging you to explore your options in a comfortable environment.
Most importantly your Counsellor will help you to understand why you are feeling the way you do, how your problems arose and help you to learn how you want to deal with them.
Counselling is not about fixing problems, it is about changing your understanding and view of the problems so that you can begin to work towards living in a way that you find more satisfying. In essence, counselling is what is called a “talking therapy”.
What use is just talking?
Often in life, we don’t really talk to people about how we feel. Instead, we give what we think are required responses, for example when someone says “how are you” we often reply “fine”, even if we don’t always feel fine. We do this because:
- we don’t want to share our inner-most thoughts and feelings;
- we don’t want to worry or burden the person who has asked about our state of wellbeing;
- we don’t want that person to judge us.
Time and Space
Your sessions are time just for you. This unique time allows you the space to listen to yourself and identify your true feelings as opposed to glossing over them; as we so often do in day-to-day life. The counsellor will take the time to actively listen to you and to understand your experiences from your perspective as you tell your story. Talking to someone outside of your family or circle of friends will allow you to gain a new insight as to what is troubling you.
How long does individual therapy last?
Individual therapy sessions often last from 45 to 60 minutes. How often sessions occur and how long they are depend on many factors, which will be discussed between the counsellor and yourself.
Be mindful that it can take a number of sessions before you start to see progress, but you should gradually start to feel better with the help and support of counsellor.
Effectiveness of individual Therapy.
Even if therapy cannot cure a condition, it can help people develop healthy coping skills. Determination to be active in therapy and heal is essential for meeting therapeutic goals and fostering a positive therapeutic relationship. Finding the right therapist is also crucial to the treatment process.
- The mental health condition addressed and its severity
- The amount of time the person in therapy has had the issue
- How much the issue affects day-to-day life
- How much distress the issue causes
- How quickly the person in therapy improves